"You're still on here, huh?"

That is what a gentlemen on OKCupid messaged me the other day. These are the responses that raced through my mind:

• You are, too, ya jackass.
• Yes, I find only trolls.
• Maybe, I'm a troll.
• Fuck off!

Instead, I replied, "Yeah, well, I'm not really as proactive about this site as I should be, so I get discouraged and delete my profile, but then get bored and jump back on." Not surprisingly, I haven't heard back. I rarely do.

I'm a cute gal so I get a lot of initial responses, but conversations come to a screeching halt after one or two exchanges. Am I THAT boring? Or is HE that boring? Why is it so difficult to keep this dating thing going long enough to actually connect with someone?

Hence this blog. Why AM I still single? What is it that I'm not doing that other women are?

Well-intentioned (usually coupled) friends say "It'll happen when you're not looking for it". So I focus on my career. These same friends come back and say, "You have to put yourself out there". You can't simultaneously put yourself out the and NOT look for it!!!

So this is my challenge: find love. Put myself out there. Look for it. Give it. And receive it.

Maybe along the way I will find "the one" (if he truly exists). Maybe I won't. But I know one thing for sure: I need more love in my life, of all kinds.

Because the last thing I want is to be sent another message in December 2013 that reads "You're still on here, huh?".